Children with ADHD, LD & their parents
Life can be tough, taxing
& stressful if you have a kid with ADHD & learning difficulty. The
children with this problem also face a lot of difficulty as they struggle at
school & find it difficult adjusting themselves to the complexities &
demands of life.
Let us first understand
what ADHD really means. So many things have been written about & discussed
about this problem. ADHD or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder in children
can cause lot of emotional problems in parents. There is no clarity on what
causes ADHD. It is definitely not the result of laziness of parents, poor parenting or poor teaching. Hence there is
no point in parents blaming each other or rather specifically the mother being
blamed for not being patient, attentive & caring towards the child’s need.Lack of motivation and discipline ortoo much
television or too much time spent on fast paced video or computer games are
also not reasons for ADHD, though these factors may certainly worsen ADHD
symptoms.
ADHD
coupled with LD (Learning Disorder not learning disability anymore) can disrupt
schooling life for children. Every day becomes a hurdle which they struggle to
overcome. School life can be stressful due to inability to perform & non
acceptance by peers.
Parents also undergo
severe stress due to the same reasons.These children are very difficult to
handle as they have high energy levels, are adamant & are capable of
manipulating people according to their whims & fancies.
If your
child is hyperactive, inattentive, or impulsive, it takes a lot of energy to
tackle them. The constant monitoring can be frustrating and exhausting. Therefore parents
should first learn to accept the fact about their child, & adjust
accordingly, even if it involves sacrificing their personal goals &
careers.
When it comes to behavior
management, as a parent, one should be stern enough to say a “NO” whenever
required. If the child realizes that you are likely to breakdown or give in to
his demands, they gain an upper hand & try to use it to their advantage.
Some
children with ADHD are hyperactive, while others are quiet—with their attention
miles away. Some focus too much on a task and have trouble shifting it to a
different task. Others are only mildly inattentive, but overly impulsive. Children with ADHD who are inattentive, but not overly active,
may appear to be spacey and unmotivated. These children are often able to concentrate on activities
they enjoy. But no matter how hard they try, they have trouble maintaining
focus when the task at hand is boring or repetitive.
Parents should try to identify the child’s interest & nurture it
accordingly. Extra care should be taken in designing activities for these
children so as not to make it too long & boring.
These childrentry their best to be good, but still be unable to sit
still, stay quiet, or pay attention. They may appear disobedient, but that
definitely does not imply they are doing it purposely.
These children with impulsive signs and symptoms of ADHD also tend to be
moody and to overreact emotionally. As a result, others may start to view the
child as disrespectful & weird.
Patience is the key virtue
here. However, it is easier said than done.
When a child becomes
aggressive & has temper tantrums, parents should not react or try to
control the child. The rage lasts for 10-15 minutes & will subside by
itself.
Adjustments in life should
to be made according to these children’s needs. Food habits need to be
modified. Chocolates, fast food & sweets need to be avoided. Life should be
patterned & followed with a set of rules as these children cannot accept
changes. These patterns should be maintained as closely as possible to bring
about positive results.It is necessary that the
school also helps these children in overcoming their problems, assisting &
encouraging them in their academics.
Remedial therapy for LD is
necessary to boost self-confidence in these children; Occupational therapy
helps in improving the attention & motor skills. Behavioral therapy aids in
controlling the mood swings & temper tantrums.
Lastly ADHD often continues into adulthood, so
don’t wait for your child to outgrow the problem. Treatment can help your child
learn to manage and minimize the symptoms. Help these children & as parents
one should aim in educating the society in understanding these children &
helping them.
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